This morning I decided to Google search Mothers Day LDS talks and came upon this article. 10 years after my first child was born, I still detest Mothers Day. At one point they cut down a tree and paraded it into town to symbolize the mother of the Gods (Asherah, anyone?). Some of the stories were simple acts of kindness and some were extraordinary examples of love and sacrifice. Most seemed to realize bishoprics are trying and they appreciate any effort. Well give you an honest deal! Being Mother's Day, that meant the soft seats up front were filled with grandmothers and other maternal figures visiting for the weekend, which meant latecomers like the Lemons got metal seats in the back this week. Have all the talks be by women. Although with good intentions, speakers usually put mothers and motherhood on a pedestal ("Mothers are loving and caring and naturally nurturing", "A mother's love is the closest thing to Christlike love on earth", "No mother is perfect, except my mom, who is literally an . a large group) sang to the mothers. According to our teachings, Jesus the Messiah wasnt just sinless, He was God. This is something better done away with. The Best Ward Mother's Day Gift - Leading Saints to hear my little kids sing and for my older kids to pass out a flower. At my ward the angel mothers were to aspire to. I issue a challenge to top this worst Mothers Day sacrament meeting talk. Really? Deep gratitde is owed to our Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ for the Atonement which allows us each to recover from any missteps, no matter how far off the path one may stray. The good news is, most sisters want chocolate from their ward family and most sisters usually get chocolate. I am glad you had a good father, but honestly, that attitude is what keeps me away. People seemed to feel good about it but Mark is right about it being a fraught day. Bear in mind thatmost of women in the congregation havelives that havent turned out the way they expected. A year later he died in a car accident, and the children went back to mom, whose life was now very different. Maybe, eventually, I will heal and that will change. I can only pray no one will take offense, as I certainly never mean any offense. I spoke one Mothers Day about Eve and Mary, and thought it was a good talk and well-received. Until I see a longer lasting cease fire, Im staying home MD (with my mother and daughters). I think this can be especially true for women who feel theyre just holding on. I agree with #15youth speaker, song and chocolate and the rest of the meeting devoted to Christ. Not at church anyway. . Please know that it is worth it then, now, and forever.. And this is all in addition to the everyday problems like getting the bills paid and the laundry done. Sacrament meeting is for honoring and remembering the Savior, its not Fathers Day or Mothers Day, its the Saviors Day! (just kidding). Thank you for writing this blog post. She is buried in the same plot as my great-grandmother as well so it was nice to be able to be there with them again. It has been another hellish week, reminding me of all my faults and short-comings as a mother, all that went wrong for me as a daughter, and it has all brought me a liitle closer to God, who is repeatedly teaching me that one-size-does-not-fit-all, or most or even many. However, like you, I thought Fathers Day was a done and done. I think it turned out great. Snickers. Can anyone say overdone? I totally agree. Sacrament Meeting Program LDS 4+ - App Store Or the best of both worldssend all women to RS and have the chocolate there so you get the women to walk through the door instead of to their cars, and so the kids arent begging for it? I have not attending other churches that have mothers day services aimed at mothers. Usually chocolate, a plant or flower. Its never the men. Through the shedding of His blood, Jesus Christ saved all people from what the scriptures call the original guilt of Adams transgression (Moses 6:54). I also have plenty of friends who are single sisters and they mourn growing older and menopause because they wont be able to have the children they want to hold and love. It is not a bad thing and it might be the one day that young mothers will remember and enjoy the most. Pertaining to gifts: #53 Im against handing out plants on Mothers Day. Actually, Ive never heard anything about Heavenly Mother beyond, Isnt it so wonderful that we believe in a Heavenly Mother?!. Somehow those who are not mothers are incapable of celebrating motherhood and thus it is painful for them and thus no one should celebrate motherhood as a church. Great post, Mark! Something else for me to kill.. I am the wife of a bishopric member, and I used to love Mothers Day. Be patient with her imperfections, for she has them. I struggled with infertility for nearly a decade. That being said, my ward will be nice and quiet next Sunday, one of the joys of the YSA wards. I am understanding your POV. I have some ideas of speaker topics but I thought I would start a thread for suggestions of topics, scriptures, conference talks, etc that would help make a great Sacrament Meeting that . In simple terms his philosophy was that the church is not true because it is madeconsists of people who are imperfect and therefore not always true to all of the ideals taught. 41 Fear not, little children, for you are mine, and I have overcome the world, and you are of them that my Father hath given me; 42 And none of them that my Father hath given me shall be lost.. Dont twist the knife; let them come to you if they want it. I think mixing it up, at least every other year, from Mother I Love You, is nice as a mom. May 6, 2017 #37 Now that you mention it, Uchtdorf is pretty Hallmarky. I get fed up listening every year to only men saying how wonderful their wives and mothers are. But Ive also read this: 40 Behold, ye are little children and ye cannot bear all things now; ye must grow in grace and in the knowledge of the truth. I think Ill check myself in to a nice bed and breakfast. This reflects a very different image than the one we portray to the world about our values and what we say means the most to us. If youre already perfect, who needs it? Mothers Day gifts at church should be like free t-shirt day at the baseball game. I pray the Spirit will be with me today as I give this talk. It is Mother's Day and yet the day is supposed to about everything about women EXCEPT being a mother. I cant remember the last time I heard a bad sacrament meeting talk, period. I havent had a bad Mothers Day since I divorced my ex and the day stopped being about making my kids miserable so that he could appear to be a good husband. I meant an ideal not an idea! Because children can be wayward we should not celebrate parenthood. Ere the sun goes down. This talk was named after a phrase from Victor Hugo who gave all her food to her children, not because she is not hungry, but because she is a mother. Elder Holland talks about the central role motherhood plays in the gospel of Jesus Christ and gives many principles of comfort and courage for mothers who may be struggling. There was nothing you could do that would ever make you feel like she didnt love you, but she always told you the truth about your behavior and was not afraid to be entirely real with you even when you wanted to lie to yourself. For example, look at how Mothers Day and Mothering Day each have a religious as well as a secular component to them, and have even merged: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother's_Day, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mothering_Sunday. sacrament meeting Archives - Teaching Children the Gospel I am on the Speakers Bureau for the Rape Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN) and we would welcome the donations too. Oh and starting with Anthropologist Hrdys observations on what a plane full of chimps rather than humans would look like. I have work enough to do, Ere the sun goes down, Thank you. Primary kids sang Im so glad when Mommy comes home refreshing change. On the other hand, women tended to speak about motherhood as the most emotionally-exhausting and time-consuming chore imaginable. Ere the sun goes down. What if you brought in padded RS chairs for the YW & PRI workers, including Nursery sisters, so that they can feel a little comfort on that Sunday? Could someone remind of what the day is for after all? Your ward contains women at various stages of their lives, including some who dont have children and never will. My grandmother is my ideal of both a woman and a mother, but she was married to an alcoholic so I understand if she is not the ideal for others. There are a number of other conference talks on the subject (righteous traditions, family traditions, etc.). Worst Moms Day talk ever: when we (and most of our friends) were newlyweds, one of our friends (a guy) was asked to give the big glory of motherhood talk. ), Miriam his sister who obeyed her mother and stayed with him and suggested her mother be his nursemaid, and the daughter of Pharoah, who raised him. Thats the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me! Find another way to show appreciation to Mothers! This has been a big concern for me, as there are many women in the ward who are very sensitive to the Perfect Mother talks, and I didnt want to heap on to their burdens. Don't subscribe She talked about how her convert mother negotiated church attendance with her inactive husband, how she brought the gospel into the home to the extent she could while maintaining close family ties and coping with her own faith struggles, and how her example and choices blessed her home. If you want to hear about angel mothers and perfect people, remain in the chapel. April 24, 2016 in General Discussions. Speechless. Just plant a tree and name it after our mothers! I have been called by God to be there and that is where I should be. Forgive me for not understanding the blessing part of it. Im not going tomorrow. Thats the last thing a mother needs, responsibility for yet another living thing. One year they handed out Sheri Dews talk Are We Not All Mothers? and I thought that was cool. I would expect him to give a talk like that because he is so utterly black and white in his thinking and he never heard a strict utterance over the pulpit that he did not love. It spoke to the special importance of mothers to their children, but also made clear that as with other mistakes, the effects of mothers failings can absolutely be healed by the Atonement. Or better yet, teach their classes and let them attend RS for a day? If you want to hear from real women who haveread scriptures andheld FHEand family prayer, but whose son is in jail or whose 16-year-old daughter is pregnant or whose husband has left her, then you should meet in the cultural hall. The Mothers Day talks in my singles wards have been quite sensitive to childless women, but still pretty women-on-pedestalsy. May the blessings of heaven rest upon you. It demands that the single day of the year that Mother's are celebrated to a holiday that is solely for adult females and no one else. It appears that we have adopted the perverted sense of inclusion to such a degree that we cannot mention our gratitude for our mothers and motherhood without "hurting" or "marginalizing" those who are not mothers. Mother's Day Singing Time Idea. I dont know how that worked out for him. He emphasized there is no one perfect way to be a mother and that every situation is different. I agree! I have seen women leave the meeting in tears, and I know others who have learned, through sad experience, that it is best for them to take a break from church on Mothers Day. Listen to her. And home teachers were not comfortable giving flowers or candy to a single sister. By I actually feel it is not so dissimilar on fathers day, particularly since the disparity between them can demean men. April 24, 2015 in General Discussions. The Mother's Day Talk PSA - By Common Consent, a Mormon Blog I did this for five years and the sisters seemed to enjoy sitting, chatting, and not having a child demanding a bit of their pie. I choose to stay away for most MDs and all FD. Actually now that I do have children, the primary song Im so glad when Daddy comes home has taken on a new meaning for me. On the road this week I attend Mother's day services with the fourth ward in St George Utah. You can still give the women the day off. Just sharing those times with women in the scriptures and what we can learn from them - and NOT have a focus on mothers. In the same way, when we make a dramatic production of Mothers Day, I fear that we are sometimestrying to compensate for the way we devalue the real and important work they do on the other 364 days of the year. Pres Hinckley and apparently Mark has it right. Have a young child, a teenager, husband and elderly father take you through the different phases of motherhood in their own point of view. Uchtdorf, but you have to admit he gets pretty Hallmark(y) sometimes. Use Mothers Day as an example of how a saint can use a tradition of men as an acceptable way to express Gods love and promulgate the Gospel. LDS Mom Launches Exciting New Party Game. please please please please dont pull us teachers from Primary for pie or talking. Alece 100 it is a bit rich for you to interpret that your comment and that quote by Lewis mean the same thing. Ill be hiding in the clerks office. But one thing is for sure, Ill be drawing on much of this. Set them up outside the chapel, or in the kitchen or sometime. Avoid speaking of angel mothers. She was not worthy of any review from me. What does it mean when we want to remove motherhood from Mother's Day? mothers day Archives - LDS Daily I too am irritated by mother-worshipping in MD talks, but at the same time, I think many Mormon women identify so strongly with being a mother and so many have sacrificed just about everything to focus on that specific role, that they really appreciate a little validation, a little boost of confidence that what theyre doing is significant and has meaning. She loved us unconditionally heart and soul. I feel for how it hurts people to attend church and the sorrows they bear. This might be a useful reference in terms of stories about Christ and women (not saying to cite it, just to get scripture references and helpful context): http://www.fairmormon.org/perspectives/fair-conferences/2015-fairmormon-conference/christs-emancipation-of-women-in-the-new-testament. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Your email address will not be published. You can guess how well that went over. Of Good Cheer: The Most Motherly Mother's Day | Meridian Magazine I gave a MD talk one year and focused on Emma Smith, Naomi the MIL of Ruth and my daughter who was a young mother at the time. we have never ceased head-shaking about his, well, completely horrific timingand choiceoif topicand general ignorance and intolerance (and sheer bovine stupidity). The Primary president asked him, as Chorister, to write a new song for the kids to sing in sacrament meeting on Mother's Day. The Spirits constant companionship is one of the greatest gifts of mortality. Ugh. . I accidently hit the quote button and so nothing is there..you guys can fill in the blank.. My wife and I will be on an Alaska Cruise. Ziff, thank you. I dont want to hear Sister Becks controversial mothers who know talk, or president bensons talk come home talk. It is good to share personal stories, but be aware that your own family might be abit stranger than you think. Below, youll find an excerpt from each talk and a link to the full text. Make it different, and they will see you are trying. They always see what they havent done instead of what they have because they are constantly reminded of what they should be doing. LDS Sacrament Meeting Talks - 34 Ideas - Nat Harward The responsibility mothers have today has never required more vigilance. I would also love all quotes, conf talks, songs be from women to reinforce the value/insight/talent women have. Motherhood as a path to choose to be a better disciple of Christ by caring for those Christ loves.feed my sheep, etc.https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2014/04/wanted-hands-and-hearts-to-hasten-the-work?lang=eng. A day focused on mothers is hard enough for many women, and much more so when thats all they hear about at church. Sometime in the mid-1990s, I went to the ward library after sacrament meeting to obtain materials for teaching a lesson. #28 Love the song choice of I Have Work Enough To Do as a tribute. Why shouldn't women be those who teach about the glory of god that is woman? Let's apply your logic standard to other holidays. Modal title . It is as if we cannot celebrate anything because if we focus on single day to celebrate one person then we have decimated everyone else. The story of Martha and Mary each bringing important and valuable things, even though they were very different. Its hard to please everyone. So no one is left out. The deacons hand out small potted plants to all women 12+ years, then the sisters eat cake in Relief Society (served up by the RS presidency.). Not until the 1600s did people start associating the holiday with their own actual mothers (Mothering Day in the UK). That was the job of the family, and for single sisters, the home teacher. Oh, we also get candy bars with the flowers, music in sacrament and the 3rd hour social time. Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. Mothers Day Sacrament Meeting: Impossible to Win Keep in mind, this is from a male perspective, andmy opinions might be worth exactly what you paid for them. A cookie in a baggie? Integrate how Jesus takes care of his mother's future well being while hanging on the cross with the scripture John 19:26-27. I just pray that the spirit can convey the message that seems so exciting in my heart. In my home ward, we once had a Mothers Day Sacrament Meeting the topic of which was the priesthood. Also waiting by the library's tiny window with the Dutch door was a . I love this. . So, yeah, how irritated the host is with the comments is pretty much it. Some years it gets a nod, other years the talks are unrelated. Trust her. With that in mind, there are great ideas in this discussion thread of ways to do exactly that. #16 They asked him to speak again?! As the son of a mother who was destroyed every Mothers Day, and seeing many similar experiences here, I plan to stick to the Christ-centric meeting next year. I do think it is easy to understand my point and I appreciate it when others understand my position. My mother died just a little less than a year ago, and I find that I never appreciated Mothers Day at all until now that my mother is gone. I didnt enjoy Mothers Day during my years of infertility, but Ive been surprised that I enjoy it even less now that I have children. But since youre not, Im bowing out this year. Your email address will not be published. End of rant. My mom still to this day says it was the best Mothers Day talk ever. 3. Latter-day Saint Missionary Hospitalized After Stabbing in Colombia, A Slam Dunk of a Service Project: The NBA and Church of Jesus Christ Feed the Hungry, All Missionaries Accounted for in New Zealand After Devastating Cyclone, New Zealand Latter-day Saints Urged to Prepare for Cyclone, Latter-day Saint Artists Paints Uvalde Shooting Victims, Delivers Portraits to Families, Tender Advice from President Monson Trends on Instagram Reels, Church of Jesus Christ Releases Statement of Support After Earthquakes in Turkey, Syria, Try Faith: A 30-Day Challenge Shows How Four Young Vloggers Built Faith in Jesus. This has been a great reminder to be sensitive to all in the congregation with the Holy Ghost as a guide. Motherhood as a path to choose to be a better disciple of Christ by caring for those Christ lives.feed my sheep, etc. Glad as I can be I wonder if a member of our bishopric reads this blog? from Pres. Are you looking for the best LDS talks on motherhood? After living with me for almost 17 years, hed better get it right! He also addressed many different groups of women separately with distinct advice for their situation, including women with small children, older women, and women who never marry. What would happen, if, at the start of sacrament meeting on Mothers Day, the bishop announced that there would be two separate meetings. 1 Dead, 1 Injured in Shooting During LDS Sacrament Meeting in Nevada. In partaking of the sacrament and making these commitments, Church members renew the covenant they made at baptism (see Mosiah 18:810; Doctrine and Covenants 20:37). Ancient Romans and Greeks would celebrate Cybele / Rhea, the mother of the Gods with festivals in the spring time. The division of labor between the holidays helped to alleviate some of the awkwardness of the women = mothers mindset that we face in the US. My oldest, the musical and noisy one, composed parodies of many favorite primary songs about a decade ago when she was under the tyranny of those zealous but misguided young mothers. Latter Day Arrangements is a sheet music resource for members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and other Christians. Mothers Day was open so I said ok, I will come up with something appropriate. It is even worse when women are so enthused with Father's Day that they want to ignore it completely - as in absolutely not mention it. Im sure that attendance in RS would be higher on that day though. Gospel Q&A: I Feel Guilty That I Cant Fast Because of Medical Reasons. Alece, Home & Family. So He can be ideal AND real. Oh, great. Re-reading my comment (101) it sounds very harsh even though that is not how I mean it to sound. So I would personally prefer if they didnt do those honor-mothers meetings. Our HC speaker will be talking about forgiveness this Sunday at the special request of our Leadership. Or should we just not celebrate anything or any role that a person may fulfill in life? I was asked to speak 3 times on MD during my infertility phase. I dont remember all 18 things, but two of them stuck with me, even 15 years later. Which isnt necessarily a bad thing. Im against handing out plants on Mothers Day. I come to church to be fed spiritually, and sappy poems and stories are never ever going to measure up to the meat that scriptural examples can provide. Nice post Mark, I think we do need to be careful about how we say some of the things we do in church, and elsewhere. Maybe the Hallmark channel should use some of his conference clips as fillers when movies end early. That bishop that moved his ward away from elaborate gifting was doing the right thing.
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